With a heavy heart…

394px-Sarah_van_Fleet_roseThere are times in our lives when we have to say goodbye to folks we haven’t seen in a long time. Now is that time for us here at Black Rose Spiritual Center. One of our founders, the Reverend James Roger Delaney, Junior, also known as Bran McNish to his SCA friends, passed away last night. We wish him Godspeed and God’s welcome as he moves on ahead of the rest of us to what lies beyond. On a personal note, for the man who helped me to raise our beautiful daughter, Abbie, I say…”Goodnight Jim and thanks again.”

10 Top Causes of Stress

CndlFlm_E_308x231_-391x2951. Bereavement – the loss of someone you love and care for is a devastating event that, for many people, changes the entire way you experience your life. Normally associated with a variety of emotions such as regret, anger, and guilt, grieving is a process and we all process it differently. Consider the worst of stressors most people are forced into positions of feeling like there is not anything they can do (helplessness) and suddenly having a whole new set of responsibilities thrown at them.

2. Divorce or loss of a long term relationship. The loss of a relationship can be as devastating, if not more so, than the loss of a loved one. A relationship ending can not only send your other relationships in a spin, but it can result in devastated finances, moving home with parents, or having to explain the change to children.

3. Major Illness or Injury. Whether it is a short term trauma or fighting a long term disease over time can be extremely debilitating on our energy and resources and result in serious stress – just when you need it the least. Many people who are ill feel emotionally low. For many worrying about the diagnosis and the results it will have on others around them is a primary stress inducer. Just the frustration of dealing with a prolonged recuperation can induce serious levels of stress.

ring-rings-couple-small-big-male-female-silver4. Getting Married. You would think it was the most wonderful day for the bride and groom and actually it is a serious stress inducer. With all the planning and the emphasis to have the “perfect” wedding, couples subject themselves (and oftentimes are subjected to levels of stress that can build up and make communication difficult.

5. Losing Your Job. This one belongs on the list for most people. The associated issues with losing your job (fiscal instability, perceived lack of respect, having to hit the job market again) can be real stressors. Job loss can also be responsible for relationship problems when a relationship suffers from this level of stress inducing event. Sometimes when we should be reaching out to each other the most we are putting up walls.

6. Financial Problems. With so many people living paycheck to paycheck can be a terrible experience. Having to go to the food bank can be humiliating. Not being able to provide for your family in a viable way is a feeling no one wants to have. Many times it is relationships that suffer the most from financial difficulties.

7. Being a Caregiver for a Loved One. It may be fun and wonderful to take care of a niece, nephew, or grandchild for a while to help out, but the day in day out long term grueling grind of caring for the ill or infirm can wreck havoc. Stress is caused by a variety of factors including fear of something happening to the loved one, fiscal issues, and ignoring your own needs to care a loved one can cause both physical and emotional long term stress.

8. Pressures at Work. Oh yes! Anyone who has felt like their boss was breathing down their neck will relate with the stress that pressures at work can cause. Competition is tough for jobs and people are fearful of having to find another job. Whether it is poor time management, a frustrating boss, a changing case or project, or you are just having a bad week, issues at work can cause high levels of stress.

front-arrow-on-cardboard-box-600x4009. Moving. Anyone who has moved more than from one dorm room to another knows how stressful moving can be. From packing, broken promises (it is said you find out who your friends REALLY are if they are the ones to come help you move), logistical nightmares, and the whole process is just a nightmare for most. No matter how much you plan there always seems to be something that creates some kind of havoc to your plans.

10. Getting Together For Family Gatherings. Do you think that your family puts the “fun” in dysfunctional? Many avoid family gatherings not because they do not love their family, but being in close quarters with them for very long results in frustrations. The pressure is high to appear to be successful and be making your mark in the world gets stronger with each passing year. Little things are often blown up to huge issues when they happen within the confines of the family.

Check back soon for more in my series of Blog posts about stress…if you understand what it is, and where it comes from it is my hope you can lessen its impact in your life.


Love Dr Nikki is a lifelong psychic, clairvoyant, and intuitive. She has helped nearly 175,000 people with her readings to date, and takes great joy in being able to share her gifts with others. Dr. Nikki is a committed spiritual professional who has dedicated her life to helping others find the true path to making their dreams reality and helping folks to achieve their greatest potential . You can visit her at www.DrNikki.com

The five flowers of Love

Red Rose – Said to represent passion the red rose speaks of love in its mature form symbolizing both the joy of love and the pain of love, the red rose speaks of passion that runs deep.

Pink Rose – Softer in color than the red rose, the pink rose is said to symbolize romantic love – the soft and gentle side that love can bring.

White Rose – The white rose is said to symbolize a love that is pure and true with no blemishes or impurities.

throatForget-me-nots – As the name implies, the giving of forget-me-nots indicates fidelity and faithfulness to a promise to “forget me, not.”

Daisy – Almost all of us have done it at least one “he loves me/he loves me not” plucking petals as we go along.

Pain is a Disguised Blessing

rain-on-surfaceIn the blockbuster movie “Star Trek V: The Final Frontier” Captain James T. Kirk declared “I need my pain.” What does he mean he needs his pain? How is hurting a good thing? Is there really an upside to getting hurt? How could experiencing emotional pain be a disguised blessing?

Can pain be a tool of Spirit to help us make our lives better? Yes, emotional pain is a disguised blessing! We have all been there. Life is going great and then … WHAM! You are blindsided by something you did not see coming or things did not turn out the way you wanted them to. Suddenly you find yourself in a place of pain. You are devastated and wondering how to get through the hurt when you feel you have been torn apart.

pathway-forestCan you find the lesson in the pain and move on from it, feeling blessed for the experience? I say absolutely, and that it is the normal condition for us to do so. We experience emotional pain for myriad reasons, but whatever way the pain comes to our emotions, we are being giving a chance to learn more about ourselves and to grow as a person – which is one of the greatest blessings of all. Pain is pain, and yes, that means it hurts. However, the greatest lessons we learn about ourselves are when we are challenged the most, when we have to give the most, and when we have to dig for it.

When the pain initially hits it is difficult to see how anything could be positive about the experience. As hard as it is sometimes to accept, it is when you face the challenges in life that you grow the most. When making a blade the metal smith will temper the steel, heating it, hammering it, immersing it in cold water, then returning it to the fire and repeating. This process creates a blade that is stronger with the spring required so that it does not easily break. For us, emotional pain is tempering.

hand-candleWe are spiritual beings in a human existence, here to learn – as it is said life is school for the soul. Some of us may feel like we are on a crash course! The pain that we experience emotionally teaches us about ourselves for good or ill. The blessing in the pain is that it gives us an opportunity to learn about ourselves and to grow closer with our spiritual self.

Learning the lesson that the pain has brought you is important to getting through it. Yup, you sure can wallow in that pain all you want, but pain is Spirit’s way of trying to show us there is another way or to show us that we are trying for something that is not in our best interest. Pain is the catalyst that helps us grow in both who we are as a person and in our spiritual lives. I do not recommend seeking out emotional pain unnecessarily, but when pain comes to you, try using these steps to help you get to the blessing part as soon as possible.

Look for the Blessing(Lesson) in the Pain. Why are you hurting? Did you lose at love? Are you grieving for a lost loved one or friend? That promotion you were hoping for did not come through? Study the reason for the pain to find the lesson. It is time to make changes for a happier you!

Consciously Choose to Move Forward From the Pain Part. You hurt only as long as you want to. I used to get so mad when my mother would say that to me! Now I am so glad she did. Yes, the pain hurts, but you do not have to stay in it. You can move forward from the pain and retain the blessing with the lesson you have received any time you choose.

Incorporate the Blessing/Lesson Into Your Life. You have to work at this one because it normally means you have to change a way of thinking, an avenue of approach or even move forward from the whole situation. Making change is difficult but worth the energy and effort. You will find incorporating the blessing not only makes you stronger, but happier too as it compounds the positive effect throughout your life.

When we experience emotional pain life is tempering us and we are given the blessing to work through the pain and come out of it on the other side better, stronger, and more in tune with who we are. Listening to Singer Kelly Clarkson’s international hit “Stronger” always helps me see the pain as a blessing in disguise!

We Have A Winner!

As August begins and ads for back-to-school sales are showing up everywhere you look, it can be all too easy to begin letting go of summer much earlier than necessary. There is still PLENTY of time to get outdoors and:

red flowers*Go for a swim

*Ride a bike

*Pick some fresh veggies

*Lay in the sun reading a good book

*Sip some lemonade

*Soak up the abundance that comes with late summer

I hope you’re planning on a doing one or two (or all) of the above sometime soon!

We have a winner for our Psychic Reading Giveaway but, before we get around to announcing that lucky person’s name, I would like to thank you all for participating. It seems like many of you were doing great, inspiring work on your Inner Gardens this year, and I would like to share a little bit! Some of the responses we received to the question ‘How are you cultivating YOUR Inner Garden?’:

berry*Removing negativity from my life

*Creating a new vision board

*Doing yoga

*Learning from nature, which sets a great example of how to just ‘be’

*Spending alone time, in silence

*Getting rid of all the ‘weeds’


*Practicing forgiveness

*Going to school

*Finding balance

*Working in a community garden

*Letting go

I hope you’re heading into August feeling a bit more grounded, a bit stronger, and a bit more fulfilled than you started out the summer. There is always room for improvement, but be sure to also enjoy exactly where you are!

And our winner…….. Nancy Tower~ congratulations!



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A little bit about me….

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Fashionista Fridays – What Else? Kate’s dress

It is difficult to watch the news or look at a news website without the news of Kate and William’s wedding early this morning.  Our most heartfelt congratulations to the couple with best wishes for a fruitful and loving relationship that allows them to be who they are while living on the world stage.

No links today – just do a quick search…websites everywhere are posting photos of the dress, of Kate smiling at her Prince, and the ceremony in the Abbey.

Start at your search engine of choice and you’ll find hundreds unto thousands of opportunities to see Kate’s dress, the balcony kiss and more!

Our best wishes for the couple and many blessings upon their union!

PS – We thought Kate’s dress was perfect!